Transforming Your Relationship With Money

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Picture a global retail chain with hundreds of staff worldwide and dozens of employees, or a factory that sources from suppliers in 10 different countries – each a microcosm of the corporate, global economy. What’s the one thing they all need consistent access to? Cash.

This basic need lies at the heart of a transformative rush for liquidity as the economic platform collapses. But it’s not just global entities who are trying to fathom the new money map, so too are individuals.

Bondage to Consumer Culture

So many of us are  bonded to our idea of wealth  — even though it isn’t working for us or the planet — because of the very nature of our relationship with money. We expect money to fulfil our fantasies, calm our fears, ease our pain and send us soaring to fleeting heights of gratification.

In fact, we are programmed to think most of our wants and desires are met by money. We buy everything from hope to happiness. We no longer live life, we consume it. Transforming our relationship with money and re-evaluating our emotional frequency patterns around money could put us and the planet back on track. We need to learn from our past, gain clarity on our present and create a new, reality-based relationship with money, discarding assumptions that don’t work. How do we do that? We alter our money frequency.

The frequency of Money

To attract what we want in life we must have joy for that thing. Joy is more than happiness. It’s made up of three states: excitement, ease and love. For the longest time we’ve been practicing a habit that comes from decades of programming that there’s not enough. We’ve adopted narratives from our religions, cultures and parents that are aligned with “your actions are so loud I can’t hear what you’re saying’, meaning we’ve automatically practiced what we’ve witnessed or experienced.

Our parents may have come from a place of scarcity where the world didn’t have enough information spread around or enough opportunities for everybody. But that narrative is no longer true. Today we live in a digitally abundant world that gives us access to everything we need, and we need to shift our mindsets away from the linear, industrial revolution to this dynamic, digital age we’re entering. 

If we had to think of the opposite trio of emotions, it would become clear, that particularly following the financial restrictions that came from the COVID-19 pandemic, many of us sit on the opposite side, feeling depression, anxiousness, and fear. If you’re feeling that that money has become elusive and fraught with deep worry, you’re repelling the financial state you’re trying to acquire.

Apply this to a new job that you want or a new business contract or even new clients you’re trying to attract – it requires discipline to relearn how we respond to the energy of money.

The beginning of a new road map for money

Using the word ‘relationship’ in a sentence with money may sound odd, because it’s not alive. True, but we are choosing to trade our life energy for it. We are giving  energy to what we’re doing so we can earn and then use it. That’s why money sparks emotions like fear, guilt and avoidance or excitement, joy and abundance. So while money has no reality, our life energy does. For this reason there are three things we need to give weight to when making a persuasive or an emotive decision.

Financial Intention

Money also requires purpose. We need to give instructions and directions to the energy of money, much like giving ourselves GPS coordinates to reach a destination. How much you need for what purpose. I retrained my brain and emotions to give direction and capacity to where my money should be sitting. How much do you want to make and what do you need it for?

Financial Cadence

This is the rhythm of how you interact and transact with your money. How often do you want to make money? And what value do you place on this relationship?

Financial Container

This is the vessel you mentally hold for your income to sufficiently pay for your basic needs and comforts. Is it the size of the swimming pool or the size of a goldfish bowl? Is it porous like a sieve or built from solid concrete? It is also independent of crippling financial beliefs, debt, and an inability to manage modern conveniences. 

What do we have to show for it?

If the daily grind is making us happy, the sacrifices and inconveniences would be worthwhile. But for most people, that’s not the case. So, now is the time to become financially fit and to transform your money health radically. Don’t be afraid to ask people to assist you with this shift.

Get help, read books, watch videos, get a coach. I went on a money course and then had a coach for three years just talking about money, the flow of money and following abundance meditations – it’s all about a frequency shift away from the narratives we told ourselves to a space where we can create new ideas and attract the money that will elevate us to a state of joy. 

Op:Ed by Futures Strategist, John Sanei