Most people assume that being in the wrong career means outright hating their job. In reality, career misalignment often shows up in the subtle ways people speak the phrases they repeat daily that reveal resignation or discomfort far more than a polished LinkedIn profile ever could. According to Sharon Armstrong, CEO of recruitment agency Armstrong Appointments, one of the most telling phrases is: “I’ll figure it out.”
On the surface, it sounds resourceful, even confident, but when repeated constantly, it often signals that someone feels they’re improvising in a role that doesn’t suit them, rather than thriving in it. Armstrong notes that this simple, quietly spoken sentence can reveal more about job satisfaction than any performance review or promotion ever will.
You feel Sunday-night dread on repeat
Dreading Mondays occasionally is normal, but feeling it week after week is not. When the start of the week triggers anxiety consistently, it’s usually the role itself, not just the workload, that’s misaligned.
You’re good at your job, but emotionally disconnected from it
Competence can mask misalignment. Many stay in the wrong career simply because they’re capable. People confuse success with fulfilment. Even promotions or praise can feel hollow if the work doesn’t align with your values or interests.
You live for time off and resent work taking up space
Looking forward to weekends or holidays is normal. Feeling like your real life only begins after work is not. If work feels like something you endure to reach your life, that’s a sign it may not be the right fit.
You over-prepare for things that shouldn’t require it
Over-preparation often masquerades as professionalism, but Sharon says it can be a signal of misalignment. When someone constantly rehearses emails, presentations, or meetings, it’s often defensive. They’re bracing themselves rather than engaging confidently.
You feel relieved when meetings or projects are cancelled
Relief is a powerful diagnostic emotion. If your first reaction to a cancelled meeting or delayed project is relief rather than disappointment, your nervous system is telling you the work costs more than it gives back.
You’ve stopped asking questions, not because you know everything, but because you don’t care
Curiosity is an early indicator of engagement. Losing it signals disengagement. When people stop asking questions, it’s often misread as confidence. But more often, it’s a sign they’ve emotionally checked out.
You feel like you’re performing a version of yourself at work
Many professionals describe a “work self,” but when maintaining it becomes exhausting, it’s a clear mismatch. Sustainable careers don’t require editing your personality to survive.
Feedback feels personal, even when delivered kindly
In the wrong career, feedback can feel threatening rather than constructive. That’s not sensitivity, it’s a sign the work no longer feels meaningful or safe.
Your escape fantasies are quiet, not bold
Instead of imagining ambitious career changes, some dream about simply disappearing from work. People fantasise about handing in notice or being unreachable. When escape is the main fantasy, it often overlaps with burnout and misalignment.
What this really means
Sharon stresses that recognising these signs doesn’t mean quitting immediately. Outgrowing a career isn’t failure. Careers aren’t static. Listening to the quiet signals, even something as small as saying ‘I’ll figure it out’ repeatedly, gives you more choice, not less.
For many, the issue isn’t that they’re failing, it’s that they’ve changed, and their work hasn’t changed with them. The phrases you repeat unconsciously often reveal more than any performance review. Pay attention, they might be the clearest signal you’ve been ignoring.
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